BIRTHCONTROL“I feel like I am giving God the finger,” a young mother wrote to me recently. Her struggle was birth control. She was using it, and had a sense in her spirit that she was telling God she didn’t trust him and that He was not in control of her life.

She’s not alone.

Many Christian young women begin considering birth control as early as their college years, not because they are sexually active but because the evangelical world is re-thinking its opinion of The Pill. Did the Catholics have this birth control thing right?

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FINDING YOURWhen you think about it, was the mail order bride service our forefather’s used that different from eHarmony or Christian Mingle? Ok, ok! I know I just stepped on some feminists toes and I get that. There weren’t, as far as we know, mail-order husbands. So, let’s just get to the point of my brain’s meandering today and level the playing field while we look for some top quality husband-material for you.

Let me start with a question: what single quality most attracts you to a guy? (No really. Answer the question before you read on.)

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Dannah’s TED Talk

“Have you had sex with this man?” Dannah Gresh asked that question of an audience staring at a big screen photo of NFL football player Tim Tebow during TEDxPSU on March 16th. The audience of nine hundred, mostly Penn State University students, was challenged to consider if it was possibly intolerance of virginity that led the media to print the question along with the offer of a one million dollar ransom for anyone who could prove they’d taken Tebow’s virginity. She then used social science to debunk the myths that perpetuate the lie that those who embrace their virginity are doomed to have bad sex, proving not only that those who reserve sex for marriage have great sex but when you have sex with anyone “your body makes a promise whether you do or not.

TED is a globally recognized, by-invitation-only think tank of speeches used by educators and students and is billed as “ideas worth spreading.” Dannah proposed that tolerance for virginity was an idea worth spreading and was invited to present. If Gresh’s speech gets enough traffic it will be moved to the main TED website and the idea of tolerance for virginity will be promoted across the globe. Please consider sharing it on your Facebook page, Twitter feed, or through email.

UNPLANNEDNo one plans to get pregnant in high school. But some do. Maybe you are finding yourself there right now.

My guest blogger Chanel Murray chose life in so many ways. I’ve witnessed the tears and even some shame, but what I will remember most is seeing God’s grace rush in as his Church surrounded her with love and gave her courage to make good choices. She is about to graduate from high school and her son, Noah, is one year old. Recently, she read this list of “ten things I didn’t plan” at her senior project presentation. Not a dry eye in the house as our hearts leaned in and learned. Maybe we learn best in the unplanned.

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Sex On (1)Once when I was speaking at a campus event at a Big Ten University, a couple approached me. He was a football player—all but worshipped in a town where the blood runs the same color as the team uniforms. Proud as could be, he stood beside his girlfriend to tell me that they were using his “celebrity” status to encourage purity on the sex-saturated campus.

“Whenever we get the chance we share our philosophy?” he beamed…with a little too much pride, I might add.

Noticing a look of distinct shame on her face, I felt the need to clarify.

“What is your philosophy?” I asked.

“We just stick to oral sex,” he said.

She burst into tears.

Let’s shoot straight. There’s a lot of sex going on out there.  And depending on where you go to college, it’s going to be harder or easier to live out your sexual convictions whatever they may be. Here are three things every college-bound high school student—and their parents—need to consider.

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