Do the lyrics really matter? Months ago, I was appalled by a viral video of a sweet little tween girl sitting in the front seat of a car with her brother driving. Suddenly, Rihanna’s Work—wrought with explicit lyrics that are barely understandable—came onto the radio. This precious little girl jumped into the backseat and starting twerking like a stripper. My heart just broke!
Twerking in the back seat isn’t the only risk of inappropriate music lyrics and role models. A two year study by the American Psychological Association titled “The Sexualization of Girls” clearly linked music lyrics and the marketing associated with the songs to age compression in tweens resulting in eating disorders, body image issues, and depression when they are teens. The lyrics matter!
Last week, The Washington Post reported on new research revealing that the “princess culture” is damaging young girls. Is it? (My team has been researching the concept of “princess culture” for about nine months preparing for a new Secret Keeper Girl tour and I might have a different take on things than the many hyped-up headlines.) While modern princesses like Elsa, Merida, and Rapunzel have been applauded for breaking stereotypes, the overriding impact of a slow and steady stream of physically perfect female lead roles awaiting their prince is accused of doing measurable damage. The study, a first measuring social science data on the impact of “princess culture” reveals three specific concerns.
Every now and then—and with growing frequency—a single woman in her twenties or thirties confides in me how discouraged she is that there aren’t any guys her age to date. “They’re too busy playing video games to invest in the pursuit of family,” said one. There’s now some statistical evidence that the concern of these biological-clock-ticking females is very real. For the first time in 130 years (when life circumstances generally had extended families living together), a young adult is more likely to live at home with mom and dad than with a significant other. It’s the most common form of living arrangements for twenty-something males.
Since the 2004 coining of the word “adultescent,”[i] we’ve had something to call the young adult male who is so busy playing Call of Duty on his Playstation 4 that he doesn’t actually have a real life call of duty.
Should you be worried about your son?
Do you desire for your teen daughter to go through her teen years God-crazy and not boy-crazy? Do you aspire that she’ll use her teen angst to become a prayer warrior not a rebel? If so, you won’t want her to miss the Young True Woman Track at this year’s True Woman conference September 22-24 in Indianapolis. During the True Woman conference, your teen daughter will experience many of the main sessions featuring Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth, Mary Kassian, Dr. Russell Moore, Stephen Kendrick and memorable moments with you, but will get the bonus of a teen track created just for her and other young women.
What could God do with a generation of young women sold out to prayer in a culture that is lost and growing in darkness? Isaiah 58 promises that “your light will break forth like the dawn” when you enter into humble, authentic prayer. And there is no age limit on those invited to such intercession. Invite your daughter to join the Young True Woman movement and start a flame of vibrant life-giving light in our nation.
Dannah Gresh and beloved vlogger Betsy Gomez will present life-changing truth. Every girl will leave challenged and trained to pray. Stephanie Martinez prepares their heart with live worship. Here’s what one mom said about having her daughter attend Young True Woman with her in past years.
“My greatest God story [from True Woman] is what He did to my
daughter, age 13. She attended the Teen Track. When asked by her brother how it was, she stated, ‘Awesome. Life-Changing! If you don’t have Jesus you don’t have anything.’ This means more than you can imagine.” —Kim
Read on to learn more about the Young True Woman teen track.
“Masturbating will make you go blind.” So goes the old myth. (Many myths prevail surrounding masturbation. The most interesting may have been perpetuated by Dr. John Harvey Kellogg who thought that a proper diet would alleviate a man’s desire to masturbate, and so he fed men under his care in a mental institution a special cereal he created. Kellogg didn’t curb masturbation, but did become a cereal giant and many of us still eat Corn Flakes today with no impact on our sexual desires.)
Recently, my husband and I were having dinner with a couple we greatly respect. The man is a well-studied theologian and beloved pastor. During a conversation about the overall crisis of purity in the Church at large, he referenced a Bible verse that made me wonder: “Is the notion that masturbation causes blindness really a myth after all?” I’d like to share that verse with you today, but first let’s take a look at masturbation and ask the question: Is it a sin?