Single Desire: How Can I Satisfy My Desire To Rescue A Man?


depp-sparrowIf you’re conflicted by the fact that you find Johnny Depps’ Captain Jack Sparrow sexy, you’ve come to the right place. The treacherous, badly groomed pirate swoons the hearts of women despite that fact that he’s most likely incapable of sustaining a long-term relationship. (Never mind the fact that he’s fictional.)

Recent studies suggest that women are scientifically attracted to  bad boys. Some think this tendency is heightened during ovulation when a woman may subconsciously be more likely to consider how protective a potential mate could be of offspring. (I’m sorry that I just called your future children “offspring.”) (Again, never mind the fact that the bad boy tendancy might make them undependable.)

I think we are, in fact, attracted to the bad boy.  But I think the reason is much simpler than science will ever uncover. I’d like to reveal it to you today so you can figure out what to do with your bad boy appetite before you end up with one that might hurt you.

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nonSpeed Dating for Dummies: is he willing to inconvenience himself for you?


nonSpeed Dating

Take a breath. Slow down. Dating doesn’t have to be so rushed. It does have to be right.

[Bonus material from Get Lost.]


Dannah Helping NessieI have enjoyed a special connection with Nessie and her mama Scout. I was Scout’s midwife when Nessie came in to the world. You can see us cleaning Nessie,—just moments old—, as a team in the picture to the left.

As I was writing Get Lost last summer, I looked out the window to see Nessie was communicating clearly to her mama, Scout. That baby wanted some of the wonderful llama milk under her mother’s belly. Scout was rather intent on walking over to the mound of hay Bob was putting out at that moment. She didn’t want to stop to nurse Nessie. That was clear. She put her ears back and attempted a gentle kick, but stopped short.

There have been other times where Nessie, seeming to sense that her llama mama had some place to be, bounced along beside her suppressing her need to nurse until the pair arrived at their destination. This was not one of them. Baby needed milk.

I saw the reluctance in Scout. She was eager to get her share of that hay from Farmer Bob. And the other llamas can eat so quickly! I didn’t think she was going to stop.

But she did.

She submitted to her baby’s need.

Scout’s act of kindness really spoke volumes to my heart that day.

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Sexual Boundaries: Where Are They?


packhamby *Hannah Packham

Holding hands, kissing, sex, where do you draw your line? This is an important question that evenI tried to avoid answering. It’s just intimidating, right? How are you supposed to know where you draw your line?

A little over a year ago I started dating. I love it. Although, I’ve only dated one guy, that’s about all it takes to learn some of the most important lessons about relationships: everything from communication to kissing.

The boundaries of purity seemed simple to me before I started dating: don’t have sex until you’re married. Just don’t do it. Seems pretty easy; however, I found it is much more complicated than that.

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