Lies Young Women Believe: Lies #1- God is not Enough


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Have you ever believed this lie: “God is not enough?”

You might not think that you believe God is not enough. We talked to over 1,000 teen girls about the lies that were making them feel depressed, lonely, angry, stressed, hopeless and a lot of other terrible emotions. Most of them knew that God should be enough, but they found themselves holding out for something more:

If I just had a friend I could count on, that would be enough.
If my parents let me stay out late, that would be enough.
If I got into my dream college, that would be enough.
If I had a boyfriend, that would be enough.

In the end, 88% of them agreed that they believed the lie: “God is not enough.” In fact, it was the most commonly believed lie young women were struggling to overcome.

We have struggled with this lie, too! I, Nancy, went through a hard time when a close friend and mentor died; another moved away, and a third friend was removed from my life through a tragic circumstance. I was devastated. For the next several months, I struggled with feelings of disappointment with God and battled some intense doubts about my faith.

Finally, as I began to cry out to the Lord, He showed me that I had been looking to my friends to meet my needs and to fill the deepest places of my heart. I discovered that by putting people in the place of God, they had become idols in my life. I began to realize that there was no human (or anything else) on the planet that could truly satisfy my unfulfilled longings. I discovered that I was insecure because I was placing my trust in people, who could be taken away from me, rather than in the One who never changes and who will never leave me.

That desperate season proved to be a huge turning point in my life. I repented of my idolatry and asked God to show me when I was expecting others to meet needs that only He could meet. He brought me to the place where I could honestly say:

Whom have I in heaven but you?
And there is nothing on earth that I desire
besides you. (Psalm 73:25)

God is enough; He will meet your needs and wants to be your closest confidant. His Word promises: “And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:19).

  • He is the One who can heal your heart when it is broken (Psalm 147:3).
  • He is the One who can encourage, guide, and protect you. (Psalm 121:7)
  • He is the One who can make you feel safe when others fail you. (Psalm 27:10)
  • He is the One who can make you feel valued no matter what you can or cannot do. (Matthew 10:29–21)

We get to know our friends better as we spend time with them. The same is true about having a friendship with God. As we spend time reading and thinking about what He’s saying to us in His Word, or as we pray or meet with others to worship Him or study the Bible together, our relationship with Him grows deeper. The more you get to know God, the more you see that He is the only one who can meet your deepest needs.

If this resonated with you, I would encourage you to check out the updated version of Lies Young Women Believe, available now! In it, Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth and I share the most common lies young women believe—along with the Truth that helps you battle them. We hope this book encourages and equips you on your journey to freedom. You can find it for 25% off using the code LIES25 HERE.

Lies Young Women Believe: How we are Deceived by Satan’s Lies


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The Bible tells us that Satan poses as an “angel of light” (2 Corinthians 11:14). Ezekiel 28 tells the story of how he asserted his claim to be like God. He is the Impostor. And his motives are malicious through and through, as Jesus Himself pointed out:

“The devil . . . was a murderer from the beginning,
and has nothing to do with the truth, because there is no
truth in him. When he lies, he speaks out of his own character,
for he is a liar and the father of lies.” (John 8:44)

Satan’s native language is lying. He speaks through different mouthpieces, sometimes using evil rulers, false religions, social media, Netflix, popular songs, or even friends to deceive us. But all lies originate with him.

Why does he lie to us? John 10:10, which refers to Satan as the thief, suggests that his ultimate goal is our destruction. The ultimate fruit of his lies is death. We begin to experience the results of this “death” before our hearts stop beating. Look at God’s words to the first man:

“Of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil
you shall not eat, for in the day that you eat of it
you shall surely die.” (Genesis 2:17)

What did God mean when He said they would die on the day they ate of the forbidden fruit? Eve clearly didn’t die physically the day she first sinned. However, the moment she took a bite of that fruit, she did die spiritually—she was separated from God, who is Life.

The Tree of Life was now off-limits, and she was banished from paradise. She would now be a slave to her own sinful, selfish desires and choices. She would bear the consequences of living in a fallen, broken world, rather than enjoying the eternal pleasure of life in Paradise. She and her husband would have to endure pain and hardship as they fulfilled their basic responsibilities related to family and work. With each passing year this hardship would take its toll on their bodies, and they would eventually experience physical death.

What a vivid picture this is for us.

The moment we believe and act on a lie, as Eve did, we begin to experience consequences. We become increasingly enslaved to false, destructive ways of thinking and living. This may show up with symptoms like on-going depression, unreasonable stress, or an overwhelming sense that you don’t have any friends. Satan’s ultimate goal is our destruction and death. Not just physical death some day in the future. He’d like to make you a part of his walking dead on this earth, not free to enjoy God and life as He created you to live it. You see, zombies are more than the bad guys in scary movies or on Netflix. Walking around enslaved to fear and death is a very real lifestyle for many.

There is good news. Jesus came to give you life, and He wants you to have it to the full. Let us help you experience joy, contentment, passion, energy, and life the way God designed. See you back here next week for more Truth that will set you free!

If this resonated with you, I would encourage you to check out the updated version of Lies Young Women Believe, available now! In it, Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth and I share the most common lies young women believe—along with the Truth that helps you battle them. We hope this book encourages and equips you on your journey to freedom. You can find it for 25% off using the code LIES25 HERE.

Lies Young Women Believe: And The Truth That Sets Them Free


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From the time she was in junior high when her parents divorced, Erin Davis struggled with panic attacks. They came mostly at night and were spurred on by horrific nightmares. When she awoke, sometimes she could barely breathe. She dreaded going to sleep because she never knew when she’d wake up in the middle of the night and feel suffocated by fear. She went to college and married her high school sweetheart. Together, they ministered to the youth of their church, but Erin hid the fact that she was still plagued by panic and fear.
Worn down and completely exhausted, she finally asked some friends to pray with her about what might be causing these recurring, sudden bouts of paralyzing fear. The friends asked what kinds of thoughts ran through her mind during her panic attacks. As Erin shared what she felt during those times, it became obvious that her panic attacks were reactions to thoughts and underlying beliefs that simply weren’t true. Her feelings were very real, but they were based on some pretty serious—and destructive—lies. Lies like:

Lie #1: Everyone leaves.
Lie #2: I have to take care of myself.
Lie #3: I can’t wear my heart on my sleeve or it’ll be crushed.

It was easy for Erin’s friends to see that these statements were contrary to God’s Truth, but she needed to see it. As they prayed together, her friends asked her to consider what God would say to her about those things. Here’s what she concluded.

Lie #1: Everyone leaves.
Truth #1: “I will never leave you or forsake you.”

Lie #2: I have to take care of myself.
Truth #2: “Be still and know that I am God.”
(Erin realized she was trying to play the role of God in her own life.)

Lie #3: I can’t wear my heart on my sleeve or it’ll be crushed.
Truth #3: “They will know we are Christians by our love.”

In case you didn’t catch it, the truths Erin concentrated on in that prayer time are powerful Scriptures right out of the Bible. These verses became the focus of her prayer team that day. Over the next few days, she continued to meditate on those verses as she began to “reprogram” her thinking.
The results were amazing! When Erin drove home a few days later, staying in a hotel alone along the way, she slept peacefully without nightmares or panic for the first time in a long time. Her parents are still divorced. She still struggles with fear at times, but it rarely rises up as powerfully as it did night after night for almost ten years.

The lies she believed at one time put her in bondage. It was God’s Truth that set her free.


If this resonated with you, I would encourage you to check out the updated version of Lies Young Women Believe, available now! In it, Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth and I share the most common lies young women believe—along with the Truth that helps you battle them. We hope this book encourages and equips you on your journey to freedom. You can find it for 25% off using the code LIES25 HERE.

#2 Sexual Myth: “Purity Is An Idol”



One of my single, twenty-something team members returned from Christmas break with something of a epiphany having occurred. “I’ve made purity an idol in my life,” she confessed.

Memories of multiple blogs inserting this thought into the online Christian conversation ran through my head. Blogger Elizabeth Esther seemed to have started this snowballing conversation rolling. Rachel Held EvansBoundless, and a number of others soon posed the question on their own blogs to perpetuate the debate. Before we knew it, we were reading grandiose claims such as “Virginity: Christianity’s Main Idol.”

Of all the myths birthed and nurtured in last year’s critique on the purity movement, this one brought the strongest response in my spirit. It is both the most truth-founded and most deceptive of the myths. A tricky one to be certain. While I believe it’s possible that purity may be an idol in your life, it is a myth that purity is an idol.

Myth #2: Purity Is An Idol

Before I reveal the logical fallacy in this trendy conversation, let me give you a few test questions to see if purity has become an idol in your life.

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When You’re Walking On Water…And You Sink.


Me & StormieMercifully, grief comes in waves. I am thankful for the ebbing where I can gasp for breath and rest. But when the waves come they are high and filled with fury and relentless in inflicting pain no eye can see. And this is just the short course on grief. I know those who have walked through much deeper valleys.

I have lost a pet. A beloved, faithful, constant companion. Stormie. She left suddenly without warning. From the very first Secret Keeper Girl Tour script to Lies Young Women Believe to Get Lost, she was by my side for each click of the key board. I ache to hold her just one more time. It’s the emptiness that makes the waves of sadness so deep. And I find myself sinking. Do you know what it feels like to sink? Have you lost someone? Experienced an unforeseen break up? Felt the sting of betrayal? Found your life plan ripped out from under you?

You are not alone.

I’m here with you, friend.

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nonSpeed Dating For Dummies: are you willing to be busy at home?


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Take a breath. Slow down. Dating doesn’t have to be so rushed. It does have to be right.

[Bonus material from Get Lost.]

Chocolate Cake with Strawberries This is one of my favorite photos on  my iPhone. It’s a cake that Lexi and Aumn made me for Mother’s Day, and it was as delicious for the eyes as it was for the taste-buds.

More wonderful than the cake is the fact that my almost-twenty year old girls baked it for me. They have learned to be “busy at home” (Titus 2:5). Lexi makes a killer crab & asparagus pasta and Autumn’s sewing skills are to thank for the window treatment in my stairwell. But it’s really not about the cakes, pasta and window decor. It’s about the fact that they love family. They enjoy being home and have never clamored to go hang out at the mall or be away from mom and dad. I  know this is a treasure and I hold it with great care. Here’s why…

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