One recent issue of Glamour magazine dubbed single women who prefer freedom over family as “freemales.” Cameron Diaz was touted as a role model for all women. She was quoted, “I love being by myself and I’m really good at it.”
Now, the church would never say that we’ve bought into a feminist perspective, but our lives tell a different story. In 1987, 80 percent of Christians felt that the roles of being a wife and a mom were valuable and important to teach to young women. In 2007, only 52 percent felt this way, with 47 percent stating that the roles of marriage and motherhood should not be emphasized to young women today. Christian women may not have burned their bras in the 1960s, but something much more precious and symbolic was burned up within us during the feminist movement: the desire to be wives and moms.
God says, “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled” (Hebrews 13:4, NKJV). I believe that God created woman to be in fellowship with man, primarily through marriage. Yes, the apostle Paul was right in saying that it is good not to marry so that you can be free to serve God. But God said it is best to be in an honorable one-man/one-woman marriage. Genesis 2:18 reads, “The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.'”
Want to pursue God’s best? Open your heart to the gift of marriage, and let Him make the call.
Excerpted from Dannah’s book, What Are You Waiting For? The One Thing No One Ever Tells You About Sex